The Publicists Assistant

Wealth in a home-based business is just a state of mind

March 30th, 2009 | Author: Assistant

The gurus tell us that we must act rich to get rich. I believe that, because I sure don’t know how to get a part without first knowing how to play the role. But how one can act rich when one is struggling to survive in today’s awful economy and/or drowning in debt?

You do this by playing a mind game with yourself. Release the emotions you experience about your money situation. Say you’re worried and stressed about your current situation. Emotions are nothing but energy in motion. Believe it or not, any emotion you experience radiates out into the world and attracts more of the same. Worried? You’ll attract more things to worry about. Stressed? You’ll attract more stressful situations.

On a biological level, emotions are chemical molecules that flow through your bloodstream to every cell in your body. These molecules attach themselves to opiate receptors found in every cell in your body. Addictive drugs work on the same receptors. This means that people can literally become addicted to their emotions. If you’re worried and stressed all the time, you’ll eventually become addicted to that worry and stress. Even worse, the chemicals formed by negative emotions are toxic and could literally shorten your life in large enough doses.

Second, people pick up on emotions. During any face-to-face communication, the spoken word transmits 5% of the message. Your voice tone (pitch, rhythm, etc.) transmit 35%. The remaining 60% is totally nonverbal; it consists of your body language, gestures, and other “vibes” that you display whether you want to or not… and these signals are unmistakable to any observer. Anyone who has given job interviews will tell you that they can spot the desperate applicants a mile away, no matter how the applicant tries to cover it up. Are you more or less likely to hire the desperate person or the one who is calm and enthusiastic? Apply this same concept to your life: If you’re desperate, worried, stressed, etc. then people will know, no matter how much you try to hide it.

Acting rich does not mean going out and throwing money around or buying all kinds of fancy stuff with abandon. It means letting go of the negative emotions. Your negative emotions (grief, sadness, frustration, anger, etc.) all come from fear. Boil down any bad feelings about your situation and you will find fear. What exactly are you scared of? Boil down all of the consequences of your fears coming true and you’ll find that what you’re really scared of is losing control and/or acceptance. Losing control might be in the form of collection calls, bankruptcy, etc. and losing acceptance could be not keeping up with the Joneses or a dinged credit score. To recap, all negative emotions come down to fear and the only things to fear are loss of control or loss of acceptance.

Acting rich is as simple as losing the need for control and losing the need for acceptance. It also means accepting responsibility, both for your current situation and for your future. You must also own your full responsibility for both whatever is happening to you today and whatever will happen to you in the future. You did this to yourself; nothing and no one did this for you or to you. If you want to know who is responsible (able to respond) to everything that’s wrong (and right) in your life, the answer is no further than your nearest mirror.

So here you are, fully accepting of responsibility, having let go of the need to control and be accepted. And you’re still in the same situation. What now?

Now you learn to manage what you have right now. It’s like learning to fly a plane. Nobody starts off flying big jets. Instead, you learn to fly simple little propeller planes and eventually work yourself up to the big time. It’s the same with money. Learn to manage your finances and create a budget that pays you first, no matter what. Invest the first 10% of every dollar you earn in yourself, such as in a savings or retirement account and don’t touch it. Don’t worry for a second about anyone else! What if you don’t have enough to go around? Oh well. Take care of yourself first. Do that and I will hazard the guess that there will always be enough to go around.

It’s much easier to earn more money if you’re caring for yourself first because you’re more invested in the outcome and have more to gain. The paradox here is that you may feel like you’re doing the right thing by throwing all of your money at your debt but you’re actually killing the golden goose… yourself by doing that. Literally. Contact your creditors and work out reduced interest rates/settlements/etc. This recession is a golden time to negotiate a great deal for getting out of your debt for less. Talk to a financial planner. In other words, learn to get the absolute most from what you have. As soon as you master managing your current amount of money, you’ll be able to manage more… and more… and more. This is the path to riches!

Next, decide what really matters to you in life. Here is the simple truth: You are going to die. Not for a long time, I hope, but your end is inevitable. If there is no afterlife then every second that passes is a second gone forever and a second less you have left to live. If there is an afterlife, then the principle of karma says that whatever you do in this life will prepare you for whatever comes next. Either way, you have exactly zero time to waste.

This brings up a simple question: In your last few moments of this life as you look back from your deathbed powerless to do a thing… as you draw your last breath… what do you want to have taken, given, seen, learned, been, experienced, etc? What will it take for you to be able to die in peace? I think you’d agree that the last words anyone should die with are “if only!” This question therefore gives you a very simple test that you must always keep in mind: If anything in your life (job, money, friends, etc.) is not contributing to your desired final vision for your life, then let it go and move on. This involves nothing less than finding and living your life’s mission. Everybody has a mission and you are no exception. If you are not living in accordance with that mission, then no wonder your financial situation stinks.

Here I need to stop to state the obvious… that being rich has nothing to do with money and everything to do with attitude. If you were born to study obscure native tribes in far-flung lands and that’s what you do in life then you will be rich beyond measure even if your bank account is a little lean. Fail to live your life’s purpose and the number of zeros in your bank account may just reflect the number of emotional zeros you experience.

What this all boils down to is:

- Learn to manage what you do have.
- Pay yourself first
- Find out exactly(!) what matters to you in this life and embrace that with all you have.
- Let go of and forget about all else.

This is what it means to act rich. Act rich and I dare say you’ll find yourself becoming wealthy.

To jump-start your path to being rich, find and learn from rich people. By “rich”, I mean someone who has both a big bank account and a big heart. These people are rich in the truest senses of the term and are willing to share the wealth of their knowledge and passion. I have a college degree and am in grad school… and here I am learning from a high school dropout. Jim Britt (who leads the MOXXOR WORKS Team) had everything going against him and he turned that into a life that has touched over a million people while also making him financially independent. I had a lot more going for me than he did and here I am having never touched a million people’s lives nor been overly generous to my finances.

The simple truth is that what you know about money today just isn’t serving you… because you aren’t rich. So throw it all out! Then go out and learn from people who are where you want to be, both financially and in life overall. The best ones to learn from are (not coincidentally) the ones who will be most interested in teaching/mentoring/guiding you. Jim and I co-founded the MOXXOR WORKS Team along with Louis Volpe and Sid Smith to do just that.

I am taking the exact steps I recommend to you as co-founder of the MOXXOR WOKRS Team… and my future looks brighter than it has in a very long time! I am impatient and I feel that my success is taking its sweet time when I want it NOW, but I counter that by remembering to let go, surrender, and take action with no expectation of any particular result. This wonderful universe we live in is trying to give us blessing every day. Getting rid of our expectations and demands is the only way to receive those blessings in the manner they are intended. This lesson is also clear: Everything that happens, no matter how dire, is a blessing if (and only if) you choose to see it that way. It doesn’t matter if what happens is you going broke, a death in the family, disease, anything. You can interpret everything as a blessing and learning opportunity and be thankful for it… or not.

Let go!

Get rid of the fear that leads you to seek control and acceptance. Fear really does snuff out your inner light, as you’ll learn when you read The Field by Lynne McTaggart (this book is a must read). The need to control stems from the fear of drifting along in the current and being swept out to sea. The need for acceptance comes from the fear of ostracism, which is the worst thing short of death that can befall a social animal like a human. Consider moments when you have truly surrendered… when, for example, you stood before someone and said, “I love you” with total openness. In that moment you surrendered control and had no idea if your love would be accepted or not. You bared yourself beyond naked and exposed your innermost self. My friend, that is power. That power made you able to receive a blessing far larger than would otherwise have been possible.

Recall how you felt in those moments, and learn to observe your feelings moment by moment. When you catch yourself feeling a certain way, ask, “Does this move me closer to, or further away from, that feeling of total fearless surrender? If closer, fine! Experience the feeling and let it flow through you. If not, find a way to channel the energy you have built up (again, emotion is defined as energy in motion) into a more positive place. It takes practice, but you can do it. You can feel however you want to feel any time you want to feel it. So why not reward yourself for doing well and forgive yourself when you stray?

Your needs to control and be accepted (your fear) exist because at one point you faced real or perceived dangers. The distinction between “real” and “perceived” is blurry at best because everything is perceived. Thus, you faced danger and your fear developed to protect you. In other words, your fear helped keep you alive. Therefore, it is critically important to love your fear just as much as you love your “good” feelings. It has done its job of protecting you to perfection and now that job is done. Treat your fear with love just like a delicious meal that eventually ends, leaving you with all of the benefits of a full tummy, happy memories, and resources for the future that you would never dream of feeling bad about. You’ve eaten the meal of fear, which has kept you nourished… and now it’s time to leave the table because you don’t need it anymore. OK, that’s a bad analogy but you get my point: Acting rich is as simple as letting go of your fear.

Anthony Hernandez

Anthony Hernandez is a Certified Guerrilla Marketing Business Association Coach and author of Guerrilla Marketing Success Secrets with over 20 years of successful self-employment experience. He is proud to be a co-founding member of the MOXXOR WORKS Team. Visit the MOXXOR WORKS Team Web site to learn more about the MOXXOR WORKS Team and our home-based opportunity.